SEXTING GUIDE: The Definitive Guide to Sexting
For beginners and anyone looking for pointers, here are the best tips just for you.
- Timing really matters.
It’s best to be mindful of what your sexting partner is doing when you want to kick off a hot sext session. If they’re out to lunch with the family or having their weekly meeting with the boss — it’s not the best time to roll out a steamy sext.
If you’re not sure what your partner is up to, try sending a simple “Hey, you busy?” text to let you know if it’s a good time.
- Take things slow.
Sexting is all about the build-up, so instigate the chat with an opening that tells them you’re ready to play without giving away too much. Sending a selfie of your cleavage, for example, with a simple message of ‘Hey you’ can grab their attention while making your intentions clear of what this thread can become if the person is willing to answer back.
When it comes to any kind of sex, go five times slower than you think! The same goes for sexting. You don’t want to jump straight into sex without a warm-up, so treat your sexts the same way. Ease into your sext chat with an “I keep thinking about how hot the other night was” text, and steadily building from there.
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- Remember you’re playing a role.
When initiating sex texting you need to remember that you are in control and you are playing a role. Your role is that of a playful partner who is horny and ready to get into something sexy and maybe even kinky. Your words and photos can all be used to paint a fantasy for your partner and arouse them to the point of satisfaction.
- Don’t stray too far from your comfort zone.
Only do what you’re comfortable with. Sexting can be as innocent as: ‘I can’t wait to hear from you’ or as risqué as a nude selfie. Start with something that makes you just a little uncomfortable — but doesn’t make you want to run and hide.”
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- Give your partner a heads-up ahead of sending a nude pic.
When sexting an intimate photo, start with NSFW (not safe for work), then hit return a few times, and then input your photo, this ensures the photo doesn’t pop on your lover’s locked screen, and lets them look at it when they aren’t in a potentially embarrassing or professional moment.
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- Put some effort into the visuals.
Angles are key when taking photos and recording video during sexting. The visuals are the bread and butter of sexy texting and can make or break the experience. Take photos from angles that only divulge the erogenous zones of the body (mouth, neck, bust, thighs, abdomen, booty, feet and pelvic area).
Just how provocative you get with photos is up to you. Taking photos where the camera is angled from above and looking down onto your boobs is a good example. Take photos of your booty from the bottom up to make it appear as if it’s in his face.
- Keep some sexy pics locked and loaded in your secret library.
Keep a set of stock selfies so you don’t have to deliberate in delivering an image. You want responses to be quick and lively.
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- Know the “emoji sex code.”
Using emojis that are known to serve as sexual innuendos can help set intentions without saying a word. The eggplant and banana are frequently used to symbolise the male penis. A peach represents the booty. A pussycat references to a vagina. The emoji with the tongue sticking out indicates desire, and the raindrops indicate wetness or cum. Knowing emoji sex code can help maintain a code of conduct if you’re sexting in public.
- Have fun with the dirty talk.
Talking dirty is the guiding light of sexting. The words you use are supposed to paint a picture of the fantasy you are wanting to enact. You can explain what you’re wearing. You can ask him for naughty photos to make comments about his body and the kinky things you’ll do to him. You should convey how your body is reacting to what he’s sexting you. Your words can also give instruction on what you want your partner to do to themselves while they fantasise about you. You’re leading the way toward their orgasm. Make it count.
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If you’re looking for some ideas on what to say, try reading some steamy romance novels and feminist porn. For romance novels, check out Rebecca Brooks and Sarah Maclean. For porn, have a scan at the work of Ericka Lust.
- Draw from your own personal experiences.
If you’re looking for inspiration when texting a current partner, a great play is to start by using a hot moment from a past sex session. Maybe something along the lines of: “I love the way you were kissing my neck last night.” From there, “start to think about what you would like to do the next time you see them” with texts like, “I can’t wait to be naked with you in my bed. And what about what you want at the moment, like ‘I’m slowly kissing my way down your body,’ to help create the fantasy and build tension.
- But don’t be afraid to open up about your fantasies, as well.
It’s not always easy to talk to your partner about the things you want to try in bed when they’re right in front of you. Sexting is the ideal chance to put your fantasies out there since there’s less stress when no one’s staring back at you.
- It’s all in the details.
The more specific you are in your sexy details, the better you and your partner will be able to visualise what you’re fantasising about, and the easier it will be to keep the conversation going.
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- Ask questions.
Don’t be frightened to ask your sex text partner questions during your sexting session. This is a sexual conversation, after all. Asking sexy questions can be a straightforward way for you to know what your partner is thinking. The questions can also assist you in painting a vivid image of their fantasies within their imagination.
What’s your fantasy? What part of me do you want to see? Are you turned on right now? How do you want to play with me? And, how would you like me to turn you on?
- Think of your questions beforehand.
Come up with seven sexy leading questions prior to your sexting session, predetermined phrases help to move things along faster and help prevent awkward downtime.
- Don’t get too technical.
With euphemisms and ‘slang’ words in place of medical terms for sex acts and body parts sound sexier when your partner is reading it back. Even if you feel weird typing out the word “cock” at the moment, it will sound good in his head when he’s reading your text. Preparing this vocabulary in advance will help you become more fluid in your sexting delivery.
- Memes and GIFs are fair game too.
Do not underestimate the power of a sexy meme or GIF that is in alignment with your mindset about sex. Use memes and GIFs to supplement what you’ve already written. They add more content into the chat and give you a break from having to be creative.
- Have fun with it.
Sexting is a form of teasing where you hold the power. Milk it!
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