By Madeleine (50)
For every man that’s cheating, there’s a woman prepared to go along with it. It’s a two-way street! Here’s my take on why so many men cheat on their wives and want to shag another man’s wife.
- The thrill of cheating on your partner – it’s a way to have an ongoing sexual relationship without a commitment and without having to sleep around to get it
- Men pursue married women because they feel it’s a challenge – or an ego boost to ‘steal’ another man’s wife
- Because they feel such a relationship isn’t going anywhere… it’s ‘safe’, as the other person is already heavily involved with someone else
- Sometimes a man can see when a married woman isn’t receiving the kind of attention she wants from her husband. Yet she is still desirable. Thousands of marriages have lost intimacy and become nothing more than ‘staying for the kids’
- Because, for some men, it’s just in their nature to want what belongs to others
- Infidelity may be a ‘turn on’ for some men – what is ‘off-limits’ to one person is a green light to someone else
- The bottom line is, because something is missing in the marriage
Cheating. Is it wrong to engage in an illicit encounter – after what can be many years of partner neglect?
Why shouldn’t a woman be interested in the secret advances of a possible lover once the fires of her marriage have been extinguished? I can almost guarantee ‘he’ is making sure he still gets his thrill now and then!
A man pursuing a married woman may be looking for the exact same thing she is. An intimate and sexual relationship with no strings attached or responsibilities. Removing all the day to day stuff (the stressful shit) helps to keep the fires burning between lovers.
CONFESSION. I had a three-year affair with a 42 year old married man. He told me the life went out of his marriage a long time ago, but that he didn’t want to leave his wife. Divorce is always messy (and expensive) and when kids are involved it can be devastating for them so he felt obliged to stick it out.
When he was with me, he said the sex was great but I couldn’t help thinking to myself – was he ultimately turned-on by the illicitness of the situation?
Personally, I think I’m addicted to having sex with married men – because they have something to lose too (if our secret gets out) I feel safer than cheating with a single guy
Cheating partners: No strings attached sex is very attractive. It’s just easier and less complicated than a serious relationship because it doesn’t have the responsibilities, commitments and all the ‘mushy stuff’ that comes with dating. I love having sex with a man who is passionate and sexual yet who really wants nothing from me.
Toy Boys tend to bring out my inner tigress
Cheating with younger men unlocks my sexual desires. My husband isn’t meeting my needs at home, so of course the one night (or many nights) of uncommitted sex is unbelievably great. There are no strings attached to it, either, so it’s just fantastic sex with no consequences. This to me is the most obvious reason why men and women cheat. Men love to have sex with women who ask nothing of them. As for me, I don’t expect presents and I don’t moan because he hasn’t call me.
For men: There’s no house maintenance to carry out and no children to take to school! Having sex with married women is just that, sex. You don’t have to remember important dates and make a point of seeing each other everyday. Anything goes. Anything happens. Nothing is forever. You don’t need to call me. You don’t need to keep in touch.
Practicality and convenience play a factor in affairs too. What could be easier? You don’t have to worry about romantic dinners, tickets to the cinema, or
even ‘waiting’ for the sex. The point will largely be about sex. A convenient, willing, no-strings-attached sex toy. Oh yes!
And you owe me nothing! You’re not really in a real relationship with me, so it’s all right to have sex with as many other women as you want. I don’t nag. Yes, you need to be available when I am, but your time is really your time otherwise. You have no commitment to me at all.
It’s an ego boost. There are single men too who like to power trip. They actively seek to date married women because these women are both unavailable and
unattainable.
Often, it is the risk of being found out that some men find a turn-on. It’s a thrill. And its about male competitiveness — a man may actually brag to his friends about “bedding a MILF”.
It’s all about the hunt and the kill for some men, and the married woman may be the most elusive, and therefore desirable, prey of all. What could be more ego-boosting then to convince a married woman to shit all over her vows and morals because she can’t control her need for you?
Find me…
My name’s Madeleine 😉