The BEST Relationship Advice Ever… How to Stay Hot for Each Other
Once you’ve hit the couple stage, things can cool down a bit. But are you going to let the excitement die away without a fight? These tips will reignite your relationship.
It’s not really breaking news that the burning passion between couples can start to cool down when the newness wears off. That’s because the rush is the result of the electrifying getting-to-know-each-other process. A sense of adventure is the very thing that fuels the initial interest and strong desire. The irony is that long-term couples tend to give in to being predictable, which causes the relationship to become stale.
Losing some steam doesn’t inevitably spell the end of your relationship. And just because you’re not on the edge of breaking up, it doesn’t mean your romance wouldn’t benefit from a booster shot. We believe the fun and frisky times should never have to end, so we’ve put together the best relationship advice ever and reveal some amazing tips which can recharge your connection. Why not start putting them to good use tonight?
SHARE A SECRET
Tell your partner something about yourself that you’ve never made known before. It doesn’t have to be a dark confession — it could simply be a big dream you have. Knowing that there are layers of your personality that haven’t yet been peeled away will pique their interest… and their attraction to you.
CREATE EROTIC ANTICIPATION
The days of not knowing when or if you’ll sleep together have gone and so has that libido-lifting sense of anticipation. Well, we can’t go back in time, but you can rekindle that excitement. Plan a sexy evening for both of you, but don’t share the details. Just say you’re planning a really hot surprise for them. This will help to build the anticipation by teasing with hints of what’s to come. Their mind will definitely be working overtime!
DO SOMETHING NEW (TOGETHER) SOMETHING DIFFERENT
Entering into a shared enterprise that causes a little apprehension can be a bonding experience because you’re stepping into the unknown as a couple. You don’t have to do anything death-defying or too kinky; just step a little outside your comfort zone. You’ll be doing something new (maybe even adventurous) together that should help you both to reconnect together… perhaps something a little bit more on the spicy side that’s different to your normal, everyday routine – routine, boredom and a mundane lifestyle can be a real relationship killer.
TAKE THINGS MORE SLOWLY IN BED
Once you work out each other’s hot spots and know the best way to get each other off, the tendency is for people to take the same (and quickest) route to O town. After all, that’s typically the goal, so why waste time? But if you want to rev up your lust life, get off the motorway and explore other, more indirect paths. Take it more slowly, and try different techniques and positions to stir up sexual curiosity and enthusiasm.
GET OUT TOGETHER MORE
Go for a romantic meal or go and see a movie together… anything that you wouldn’t normally do, or at least something you wouldn’t usually do together. Besides getting turned on to different ideas, you’ll find out how you both think about doing something out of the ordinary. Depending on your circumstances, character and the level of your creative imaginations, why not think about the exciting world that is known as exhibitionism? Oh, yes!
GET A PSYCHIC READING
You don’t have to buy into the predictions, but it’s a fun thing to do as a couple. Even if the fortune-teller is totally off base, the reading could spark a discussion about the state of your union…but it will unfold in an organic — rather than forced — way.
SAVE TIME TO BE SENSUAL
Once you’re a couple, all those hours you used to dedicate to just being together can be eaten up by everyday commitments. But it’s vital to shut out the rest of the world and chill as a twosome. Take a bath together, give each other massages, or just sit in bed together and cuddle. The aim is to unwind and remind yourselves how much you enjoy your physical and emotional closeness.
REFRESH YOUR MEMORY
Long-standing couples often suffer from ‘relationship-forgetfulness’ when it comes to the other person’s positive qualities. Rather than focusing on what pisses you off about each other, think of all the great things that attracted you in the first place. Also, try to remember the various activities you enjoyed together when you first began dating, and start doing those things again.
HAVE ENGAGING CONVERSATIONS
When you want to stay engrossed in each other, you need to be genuinely interested in each other. Instead of getting bogged down by the minutia of your day (do you really think your other half cares how bad the traffic was on your way to work?), talk about what really excites you. Maybe you have a [secret] fantasy that really turns you! Bring back the energy that you found so attractive in the first place by being a more alive person.
TOUCH EACH OTHER… A LOT
Nothing telegraphs intimacy and love more than touch. The effortless act of holding hands when you walk together or resting your head in their lap when you’re watching TV (code name: the ‘9 o’clock touch’) will keep you attached as a couple. It doesn’t always have to be about sex — still, it’s great if that’s the end result — it’s just that touching each other throughout the day helps to confirm affection for one another.
HAVE FUN
If you ever see two adults acting like kids, it’s a pretty safe bet that they’re newly in love. Couples are playful when they first get together, but long-term partners tend to lose that sense of fun. To bring it back, do things together that make you both laugh… laughter is the first thing to leave a troubled relationship. Play with a Frisbee, challenge each other to strip poker, or sneak up and grab them from behind. You don’t always have to be serious just because you’re in a serious relationship.
Is Your Relationship in a Romance Rut?
What is the issue with drifting into being ‘super-comfortable’ with each other? Complacency sets in, that’s what. Below are familiar signs that your relationship may be in need of resuscitation:
- You can’t remember the last time either of you surprised each other.
- You don’t check in beforehand when making social plans for the two of you.
- Sex has become very routine; you’re basically running on automatic pilot.
- You think you need other people around you to really have fun.
- You don’t mind having less sex because you’re closer on an emotional level.
Happy-Couple Habits
Small rituals can have big rewards — regular interactions that hold emotional significance are the glue that keeps you connected. Here, a few to try.
Have a bedtime ritual. On those no-sex nights, couples tend to just roll over and go to sleep. But that can put a wall between you. Come up with a signal that says ‘I want you even if we aren’t going to get it on tonight.’ It can be cuddling up or holding hands as you drift off — any show of affection that works for you is good.
Lock lips when you say ‘hello’ and ‘good-bye’
A quick peck on the lips or, worse, the cheek, is friendly NOT loving. Instead, plant a full-on passionate kiss on them when you’re coming and going. It’ll leave both of you with harm loving feelings for each other.
Get out of the house
It’s easy to fall into the habit of just ‘settling’ down together in front of the TV.
Set up a night to go for a meal – it doesn’t have to cost the earth
You can revisit your favourite restaurant or try a new place if you like. Meet after work so there’s no chance of sinking into the sofa once you’re both in your homey comfort zone.
Send your partner a racy text
Send at least one random saucy text a day. It not only shows you’re thinking about them, but it also gives you both something to look forward to when you get home!
Surprising Romance Wreckers
It’s often not the major blowups that ruin relationships. But these three things can slowly pull you apart.
Cohabiting: You’d think that moving in together would make you a tighter couple. When people don’t need to put any effort into being together, they can easily become lazy and even start taking each other for granted.
A too-busy social schedule: It’s great to get out of the house and see friends. After all, you don’t want to become totally dependent on each other. When you spend much of your free time with other people, you aren’t building in important time to chill — and bond — as a twosome.
Criticising — even mildly: The better you know someone, the more you will notice their flaws. The more their little foibles will tend to irritate you, and the more comfortable you will feel pointing them out! Since nitpicking creates distance, try to make a concerted effort to stay positive, and be sure to compliment your guy when he does something that you appreciate.
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